Hey it’s me again and today I want to talk about forgiveness and its importance because I woke up and its the first idea I got about a blog, so here we go.
Forgiveness as a simple definition is the action or process of forgiving or being forgiven.
I know there are some people in this world who think there is a limit on forgiveness because of their own personal beliefs, but honestly there isn’t. If someone does something minute such as I don’t know spill something on you, but immediately after they are aplogize and because it may have pissed you off but it didn’t cause you any pain you would forgive them fairly easy yes? Well okay now lets say this same exact person was someone you love with all of your heart, a life partner, and this time they did something significant such as step out of your relationship or they leave you broken hearted with no proper reason and this time they don’t apologize they just keep it moving. Now your in so much pain somedays it feels like you’ll never be over it, how easily do you forgive them now? Are you the one to forgive everyone no matter if they are sorry or not or are you the one to wait for someone to apologize before you forgive them?
Well get into this.. no matter how minute or significant the effect of what someone does to you has on you it should never play a factor in whether you forgive them or not. Because although forgiveness may seem solely for the benefit of the person whom wronged you its more for you because you’re able to release any negative feelings of bitterness and anger toward that person. Being able to forgive someone though they have wronged you is essential for peace within yourself and allows you to not live in the past nor hold on to anything that causes you to feel anything other than utter happiness.
When it comes to forgiving others the first step is learning to acknowledge your mishaps and to forgive yourself. Self forgiveness is important because it allows you to move freely toward a more loving and positive relationship with yourself, and therefore with others. You can forgive someone while still not having positive feelings toward them, but the forgiveness at least involves letting go of deeply held feelings. To forgive someone who isn’t even sorry or seems to possibly not be worthy of forgiveness will never be easy, but if you set your mind to anything it will seem achievable. Though a person may not have asked for forgiveness, I feel as though we should forgive them anyways because not doing so eventually becomes a burden on your spirit. Not sure how many of the people who read my blogs are believers of God, but whoever you believe in sometimes you just got let go and let them handle it. It may seem like all odds are against you in some situations, but if you turn to who you believe in things seem to feel a little easier even if they have not gotten there yet. Ephesians 4:13 says Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. There’s been times where I’ve wronged someone and didn’t apologize for it and theres been times when I’ve been wronged and not apologized to, but you know what in each situation I’ve learned something from it, so I’ll always take everything as a gain for that reason. Whether I lost someone I wanted to keep around or whether I hurt someone to a point of no return, I forgave myself. Though it may have taken me time to say you know what “I forgive myself for all the things I’ve done” or not the point is that I eventually got there. Life eventually showed me how to attain inner peace and happiness within myself simply through forgiveness. If you’re struggling with forgiving someone no matter the reason take time to ask yourself if you’ve even forgiven yourself for allowing them to disturb your peace. I feel like I could go on and on, but I’m just going to come to a stop.
Remember that self-forgiveness is essential in order to forgive someone else.